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The Duchess and the Dragon – Discussion Questions

  1. Drake’s life as he knew it comes crashing down. He is left confused and angry. Has there been a time in your life when what you believed was your future failed you? How did you react? What helped you to overcome that time?
  2. How much influence do you think our upbringing has on our lives? How did your upbringing contribute to making you the person who you have become? If you could change anything about your upbringing, what would it be?
  3. Drake deals with his disappointment by running away. Have you or someone you know ever run from a difficult situation? If so, what were your feelings? Why did that seem the only option? What did you learn from this experience?
  4. As an artist, Serena sees the world differently than the people around her. Have you ever felt like the oddball, someone not quite fitting in? How did you deal with that situation? Conversely, do you have someone in your life who “gets you?” How does that make you feel?
  5. When Drake sinks into a self-consuming misery, God provides a small boy for him to help. Have you ever been pulled from a depression or difficult time in your life through serving another? What happened? How did it help you? What do you think of depression? Do you know anyone who struggles with this? How can you help?
  6. Serena’s attraction to Drake is instantaneous and powerful. So much so that she is shocked at her feelings of connection. Have you ever had a sudden, strong connection with a person of the opposite sex? Did this seem like a good thing or a bad thing? How did you handle it? Did you end up in a relationship with this person? Do you believe in “love at first sight?” Why or why not?
  7. Fearful but determined, Serena confronts the captain of the ship on behalf of the sick down in the hold. How do you feel about stepping out in boldness for the sake of another? Is this easy for you to do or difficult? How do you handle confrontation? Has God ever sent someone to be your champion? What happened?
  8. Too often, when we give in to fear we miss opportunities God has for us. 1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” (NIV) What do you think this Scripture tell us? What else does Scripture say about fear? How can our trust in God and His leading help us when we’re faced with fear? Does that trust really change how we act when we’re afraid?
  9. Serena is faced with following her heart and choosing Drake or holding to her Quaker life. What was the biggest “fork in the road” in your life? What did you have to give up in order to gain something else? Any regrets?
  10. Have you ever embarked on a journey outside your previous experience, as Drake did with the Quakers? (i.e. college, career, new relationship, new church, etc.) Was it by choice? What did you learn about yourself? Others? God?
  11. After everything Drake has been through, he finds Serena. Scripture tells us God can make “beauty from ashes” when tragedy strikes. When have you seen this in your own life?
  12. When Serena learns Drake’s dark secret, she is devastated, realizing she didn’t really know him. Many of us have jumped into a relationship and then realized later that the person was not as they first appeared. If you’ve experienced this, how did it impact your ability to trust people? God? Psalms 9:9-10 says, “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. 10 Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you.” (NIV) Do you believe this scripture has proved true for you? Why or why not?
  13. 13. Most of us have made decisions in life that hurt other people, like Serena choosing Drake over Christopher. When in your life have you broken someone’s heart (a mother, father, sibling, friend, spouse, loved one?) Have you ever felt like you were “breaking” God’s heart in the sense of disappointing and grieving Him? What happened and how did you handle the situation?
  14. When Serena is introduced to English society and the “ton,” Lady Chandler proves a formidable enemy. Why do you think women have such a love/hate relationship with each other? Why do we compare ourselves to the women around us? What do you think is God’s answer to this? How do you deal with the women in your life?
  15. Serena grapples with Drake’s deception, but is also forced to see where she’s been wrong in the relationship. How do you react when faced with your own mistakes or wrong choices in a relationship? What do the following scriptures tell us about taking responsibility with those He’s brought into our lives: Matthew 5:23-24, 1 Corinthians 13; Ephesians 4:20-32.